Must Read: The Secret of Taming Your Strict Parents

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I am once again back with this unexpected blog post about relationship, love and parents simply because I suddenly got inspired to share my fondest thoughts about these things just right after watching Miley Cyrus' movie entitled LOL. I just thought that what I have in mind may also be interesting for those people who at times tend to misunderstand their their parents or guardians just like me.Before I start letting you peek what lies deep within my mind right now, I also would like to share one story about a former student of mine who came to tell me about how difficult it is to live with strict parents who never give freedom to let their children experience love. If you think you could relate or if you think that you were once in this situation then this blog entry is for you. Here are 5 Effective Thoughts which I think works very well for you to Tame Your Strict Parents.

1. Project the kind of person which they want you to be - I know that it is difficult to do this especially when you really are not the type of person whom they expect you to be.   Yet, if however you never have the means to stand on your own yet, learn how to join them through your obedience. If they would want you to study well  then you have to try your best to excel in your studies to please them.  Always remember that what they always want is for you to have a very good life at the end of the day. Thus, you just have to keep on saying "yes" because you have to show that you love them, you care for them and you value them even when they are strict and you are against them.

2. If it hurts them, do not show  them -  I am not pretty sure if this whole concept of not showing them the real you is lying . In my opinion however, very reason why I included this suggestion to this blog entry is for everyone to realize that there may be things which children like us tend to like but our parents think that it may give us some sort of bad effect. If you really like doing this act and you think that you know how to practice the principle of the law of moderation coupled with discipline then I guess there is nothing wrong with doing the things that you enjoy doing but you just have to temporarily hide it from them and make sure that they never find anything about it till you're ready to defend yourself and proudly tell your parents that you were able to achieve something worthwhile in your life even if you did something which you think is good and your strict parents think it is bad.

3. Be contented to what they give you - Materially speaking, most strict parents deprive us from owning luxurious things such as I pods, cars, laptops etc....There are times when parents intentionally give us just enough amount of allowance for our transportation and meals. Thus,we think that we are being deprived of the things that we want. Such action or line of thinking is indeed immature, the very reason why they only give us exact allowance come in two ways. First is the fact that our parents may not afford to provide luxurious things even when they want to. While the second concept says that most parents become stingy on us because they are teaching us budgeting values and learning how to be independent.

4. Never oblige them to do something - We sometimes encounter our parents going mad each time we ask for additional allowance or payment for school projects or field trips. Sometimes, they make us feel that what we ask from them would only be wasted towards purchasing tour luxurious cosmetics or gadgets by means of saying the most favorite punch line " We never pick our money, we work hard for it and they are never meant to be used insensibly" Admit it!!!! When you hear these words out of their mouth we tend to stereotype them as machines guns because they simply irritate us and make us feel bad. If you are experiencing this situation, all you have to do is to chance the way you say things to them. If you usually say " please give me this" or "Please buy this for me", try telling them the whole situation where you are and let them decide on what should be done. What strict parents want from their kids is for them to be involved with every decisions that they make simply because they would want to  play  the great role  of helping you form your life in a better way.

5. Learn to Make Your Own Money - Your parents shall only give you the kind of freedom which you have been longing for if they could see that you already know how to make money even if it is just for yourself. If you are able to fulfill this suggestion, you would be able to send a signal to your strict parents that you are indeed wise enough to handle not just the financial aspect but the moral aspect of your life to. Added to this, if you make your own money, you no longer need to ask money from them and you will no longer hear them talk like machine guns..(lols)

           Before I end this blog entry, I would like to give emphasis on how this article means a lot to me. These 5 strategies that I have just blurted out just because of  Miley Cyrus movie and a student who came, cried and complained about her strict parents has been my most kept technique on how I was able to have the freedom that I have been longing to have when I was still studying. Just right after college when several academies took me as a lecturer in their classes, I was able to earn for a living and I was able to prove them that I have managed to both become the ideal person in their eyes plus the ideal girl for myself - two opposing factors which were reconciled by these 5 tips that I have shared. Finally, keep in mind that strict parenting is also as difficult as the experience of a child who deals with it, so why not  give yourself some time to understand each other. That's it for now and I just hope that these tips would work on you too. Good Luck on your Journey towards Taming your Strict Parents!!!

Must Read: Know the 5 Secrets For a Lasting Relationship

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                Hello my dear readers, I am once again writing  to share my fondest thoughts about everything under the sun. Right now, I would like to share something interesting that will sure fascinate everyone who may or may not have a partner in life. I know that several people always try to seek for questions on how to maintain a long lasting relationship with the love of their lives. I must say that the ultimate secret lies on the way you treat your partner. Yes, I am a believer of karma that is why I adhere in the fact that the kind of treatment we give to our partner is also the kind of treatment that we get from them.So if you want to have a lifelong relationship that you can be proud of, try to experiment on considering these 5 factors which I have always been sensitive of during the four-year relationship with my boyfriend.

               1. Ego - If you would want your partner to stick with you through the years, you have to try your best not to skip on their ego. What I mean by this is for you to be considerate enough on how he feels when you do or you let him do something which you like. Keep in mind that your partners try to keep a deep value for themselves. As a tip, try the powers of the law of moderation.  What you should do is to refrain from scolding or putting too much emphasis on mistakes that they have made because this may lead you to the death of the love that has been kept burning for several years or months. 

            2. Individual Differences -Don't try  think of your boyfriend as a mirror of your personality because the two of you are unique to each other. While it is true that there may be some things that both you may want to do, you have to keep in mind that males would still be males and girls will always be girls. There are times when girls like us think that we could manipulate them with our words and we would always want them to project the kind of person which we want them to be. If you are someone who does this most of the time, you better be careful because most guys would still want to have an image which they can call their own. Thus, I would suggest that you just have to give them some time to breathe once in a while. Let them mingle with their friends and do the things that they love to do. You just have to let them remember that whatever freedom you give them has a responsibility that they have to bear and if they go against the rule, then they have to face the consequences of their actions.

               3. Trust - Not all guys are born dumb- ass (hehe) there are still some smart ass guys out there who deserve to be trusted. Once you decided to commit yourself to the guy whom you think you would want to live with till your long black hair turns grey, you also have to face the fact that you have to trust them no matter what happens. I know that this sounds too idealistic but I am telling you that it is indeed possible to bring back a broken trust once you start to have faith and trust your guy. While it is a fact that most guys can be easily swept by other women who may be more beautiful and sexier than you, you have to keep in mind that your guy wouldn't bother to replace you with someone else once you show him that you deserve to be treasured and loved. If they make mistakes, show them the irony of their expectations. If you think that you would be very furious, try doing the irony of it...Reverse Psychology works well  towards taming an unfaithful partner. Just keep holding unto him as long has he says he loves you. That's trust.

                  4. Care -  In order to keep your man forever, you have to know how to care for him a lot. Caring doesn't just mean serving him by means of cooking or reminding him to take care of himself but caring also means being sensible to your partner especially with his actions. I am pretty sure that you have an awareness towards guys who never say about what they feel. In short, they are not vocal so if you love him, you have to know how to read his actions and be able to provide a positive response towardsthe meaning of these unspoken words.

  

                   5. Romance - Oh yes!!!! this word is their favorite. They may seem to make us think that they are not interested towards saying sweet nothings or doing simple things that tickle someone-Else's heart  by means of cute gifts. The truth is, they like it a lot when girl's pamper them. They love being hugged, kissed and held in the even especially in public. It may sound like a Public Display of Affection but an act of allowing them to hold your hand or kiss you on the cheek in public once in while would make them think that you are proud of your love for him.

Alright, so there you have the 5 Main things to consider in order to unfold the Secret of a Long Lasting Relationship. I hope that you found my ideas informative and I also hope that It will work on you in a way that it also worked on me. God Speed and Good Luck on your relationship. Keep Loving Everyone!!!!